I Can Help Solve Your Child's Problems with Hypnosis

You want the best for your children and it pains you to see them unhappy, without friends, struggling at school, lacking confidence or plagued by an unwanted habit, fear or phobia.  Talking to them does not solve the problem and the doctor just says they will grow out of it.  But you want to help your child now.  Good.  I can help.  I am a Mum and know how precious children are and have lots of experience helping children using hypnosis.

Children really enjoy hypnosis.  They love the “magic chair”, pretending to “fly on a magic carpet” or seeing themselves “scoring the winning goal”. 

Any parent knows that children pretty much live in a trance state.  Call it daydreaming if you like but they can easily be somewhere else in a flash.  In fact younger children can enter hypnosis with their eyes open and not even sitting still. 

Children also respond well to hypnosis and there are several key areas which bring effective results ie habits; self-confidence and overcoming shyness; coping with pressure at school and exam nerves; coping with divorce or death in the family and chronic health conditions.

As with an adult, there is far more going on in the subconscious mind (below the water) than in the conscious tip of an iceberg (above the water).  Even at a young age, a child has already clocked up thousands of experiences, any one of which could be causing a problem.  You only have to read how big a problem child obesity and eating disorders are becoming to know that is true.

What sort of problems do I help?  

• Habits eg bedwetting, thumbsucking, hairpulling.

My blog post on the Ericksonian Approach to Thumbsucking

http://hypno4change.blogspot.co.uk/2007/07/ericksonian-approach-to-treating.html

• Fears and phobias such as spiders, dogs, school, needles, blood, medical treatment, the dentist, the dark.
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• Weight problems, obesity, eating disorders ie anorexia or bulimia and fussy eating.
• Children can be badly affected by divorce, arrival of a new step-parent, a new sibling or a death in the family.  I know.  Don’t let your child carry these issues into adulthood and affect their relationships.
• Children can hate school because they are being bullied, are left out, are shy or a favourite teacher has left.  They cannot concentrate because the teaching methods do not match how they need to learn.  That is where my NLP skills can help.
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• Children are under tremendous pressure in these uncertain economic times.  Competition is fierce and the need to do well at school is paramount.  Some sail through but many suffer from stress and bad exam nerves.  Occasionally we hear the sad news of a teenager ending their life because of the stress.  It can be avoided.

 “I can’t thank you enough for helping my daughter (16) through her exams.  She was so stressed, had developed an eating disorder and was even cutting herself.  She is a changed girl and this is all thanks to you.   She scored excellent results in her exams and now has confidence.  She has gone to China for a year to work as an au pair.  This was unthinkable before you helped her. ”  - Eva, Sweden

Whatever problem your child has, I would like to help.  I have the knowledge and experience to do so.  

We can do this face-to-face in the UK or over  video anywhere in the world.

Antonia Harrison is the English Skype Hypnotist.  Download the free ebook "21 Myths and 30 Truths About Hypnosis" at http://www.21HypnosisMyths.com

Hypnosis Can Stop Bedwetting

Bedwetting at night, or nocturnal enuresis, is very common in children under 7 and more so in boys than girls. There are medical conditions which cause it eg cystitis or diabetes, or by some children's inability to produce enough of the antidiuretic hormone, ADH, which controls the production of urine at night.

However, for most, it is just a case of developing good bladder control later than others.

Some drugs help to reduce the amount of urine produced during the night but that does not teach the child good bladder control and only works as long as the drug is taken. Alarms wake the child if the bed is wet but then the deed is already done!

Unless there is also a regular problem with daytime wetting (apart from the odd accident), the problem is “in the mind” as are many problems. Our mind controls everything including sending a message to the bladder to contract the muscles and hold the water.

Psychological stresses may also play a part, sometimes temporarily eg a death or divorce in the family, moving home or school or low self-confidence.
Who decided that the child should stop wearing night-time nappies? Usually the mother just wants to reduce her workload perhaps when a new baby comes along, or decides “it is time”. This may be too soon for the child who should have some say in choosing the moment. My younger son decided to stop on the same day as his older brother and has never had a wet night.

Night-time nappies give a false sense of comfort as they keep the child snug whereas waking up to a cold, wet bed is unpleasant and so a motivation for the child himself to stop. Lying on a waterproof mattress protector minimizes the laundry. If the child has to further help with the laundry involved, this will also add to the motivation to stop bed-wetting but this should be done as a responsibility rather than as a punishment. Dry nights should be praised, recorded and rewarded to reinforce the positive.

If the child is invited into the warm parent’s bed each time, rather than having to help with the immediate laundry change, this could set up a “secondary gain” which will unconsciously encourage the child to keep wetting so be firm.
Leave a night light on somewhere so that the child is not scared to walk to the bathroom at night.

The child will usually feel too embarrassed to want to do sleepovers. I find a good motivation is to talk about the fun of being a scout and going on weekends away and the summer camp, or on activity weeks.

Often their self-esteem is low as no child likes to feel “different” to his peers. Find out who their TV heroes are. One boy told me he likes Mr Bean because he is funny and silly whilst his TV hero is Ben 10. Relating them to bed-wetting, he thought that Mr Bean would have wet the bed as a child (sorry Rowan Atkinson) whilst Ben 10 would not because he is strong and capable.

It is now thought a mistake to keep asking the child to empty its bladder as it is important to strengthen the bladder muscle. On the contrary, the child should be encouraged to drink plenty of fluid, not fizzy or unnaturally coloured drinks. Parents are advised not to wake the child when they go to bed to have him urinate. The muscle should be developed to hold water for many hours and release when appropriate.

Hypnosis is very effective in helping children overcome bed-wetting. They enjoy the whole fun idea of relaxing and hearing a story. By no means should they be scared or worried by the idea of hypnosis, or in fact even told that hypnosis will be used. Just emphasise hearing a story.

There are several approaches. One is the idea of locking up the bladder with a large, strong and colourful key and standing sentry outside it. The sentry sends powerful signals from the bladder to the brain for the child to wake if necessary, or to keep those muscles tightly closed until morning.

Another approach is used in this hypnosis MP3 download for bedwetting where the child is taken on an imaginative journey with a spaceship captain inside another child’s body. The use of the third party child is deliberate as we often learn more by looking at someone else than from our own experience. The astronaut does not refer direct to the bladder but rather to holding on to a ball and releasing it when appropriate. I used this with a seven-year old boy who explained to me what it meant as bedwetting is not mentioned. The use of a story or metaphor is typical of Ericksonian Hypnosis. The unconscious mind which accounts for 90-95% of our brain understands creative, child-like ideas which often make little sense to the grown-up, rational conscious mind.

Again using the third party, I have used a child’s middle name in hypnosis as the helper to wake him or keep the bladder closed.

Whilst some children understand the message in a single hypnosis session, many benefit from repeated listening to the same message which is why this hypnosis MP3 download for bedwetting is so helpful. The cost is probably the same as a week’s worth of laundering wet bedlinen and pyjamas so it must be worth trying.

© Antonia Harrison 2011 is the English Hypnotherapist in Belgium and recommends Download Hypnosis Mp3s for immediate access to positive life-changing hypnosis sessions.